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First of all, I need to say a huge THANK YOU to those of you that reached out, sent me honest and vulnerable messages, or shared my blog post. I feel so heard and loved. There is no better feeling in the world.
For part 2 of this singleness topic, I told you that I would be sharing with you how I came to a place where I can be positive in my singleness. Unfortunately, there is no special formula that magically made me feel confident in the place God has me. I can’t even tell you that I’m 100% ok with this singleness right now. There are days that are really hard and comparison gets the better of me. The difference is that in the past 4 months, the days of feeling hopeless and sad are fewer than the days where I feel incredibly lucky to be living the life I have now.
It’s been a really slow process of studying God’s word, investing in relationships, actually living instead of waiting, and learning from those around me. Here are a few resources that have helped me in this past year:
Along with the incredible resources that I listed above, another way that’s helped me be confident in this season is just living. I’m to the point in life where if I want to do something, I’m going to do it. To me, this is just taking advantage of this season of life. I’m lucky to have a family that loves to travel and friends that are always up for an adventure! Because I’ve been single, I haven’t had to ask anyone for permission to go to a Jonas Brothers concert or buy a plane ticket to Europe. And guys. I’ve been having a BLAST. Here’s a quick list of things that I’ve been able to say yes to and just GO:
You know what the best thing is? I’m not done with the adventures. I have some SUPER fun things planned for the rest of 2019 and beginning of 2020. These adventures are so fun but can also be incredibly exhausting. There are times when I crave “home” and someone to share that with. But for right now, this is my life and I’m really thankful that God has allowed me to experience so many amazing people and places!
The last thing that I’ve had to realize and work through is this hard truth: God may not have marriage in my plan.
It’s the truth. God has never promised me a husband. I do have a desire to be married and have a family, but I have to be careful that those desires are aligning with what God has planned for me and they are not selfish desires I have for myself. I often pray for God to take away those desires if it’s not in His ultimate plan. I believe that God does give us the desires of our hearts but that phrase is often thrown around without much meaning. Check your heart. Make sure that you are aligning your life up with Jesus and searching to know Him more each day. I think that is when our true desires will align with God’s plan.
I want to leave you with these three thoughts:
I feel like I’m just scratching the surface of truths that I’ve learned in these past few months. There is a common idea that once you’re “right” with Jesus THEN the right person will come along. I really don’t think that’s true. I’m choosing to use my time now to pursue Jesus so that if there is a great guy around the corner, I’ll be confident in myself and have a solid foundation in Christ. 😊
Again, I’m here for you. I’m here if you want to share a similar experience. Or maybe you’re so frustrated with this season of life. I’d love to chat! Maybe you’re confused about how you’re supposed to date in this crazy culture as a Christian. DANG. I get it. And really? It’s not easy for our married friends who met their spouse in school or our parents to understand what dating is like in this age of technology. I just want you to know that I’m here and you’re not alone. 💕